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Hannah Weitzman's avatar

As an out and proud (and happily engaged!) lesbian, I can promise you, sweet soul, that everyone’s response to you coming out is not your responsibility. You are so brave already, just for living your authentic life with a girlfriend who seems so wonderful. I’m so proud of you -- to me, the time was right when the time was right. You’ll just know. And if it’s never right? That’s okay too!

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Alexandra Hayes Robinson's avatar

Beautiful note. Thank you for reading and sharing, Hannah. AND CONGRATS ON YOUR ENGAGEMENT!!!!!

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Hannah Weitzman's avatar

Thank you Hayes!! I love being in your corner of the internet. You feel like a close friend even though we’ve never met!

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Amanda Walton-Hawthorne's avatar

Wonderful post! I’ll be thinking of the letter-writer this Christmas. So true about knowing your “why”- I waited to come out till loved ones’ acceptance was no longer the goal. I wanted it, of course, but an authentic, joyful life was the goal. Coming out was merely the means to get there.

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Alexandra Hayes Robinson's avatar

Thank you for sharing, Amanda <3

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Cassi's avatar

Hayes, this was an especially beautiful one <3

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Alexandra Hayes Robinson's avatar

Cassi <3 thank you for reading

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Dana Robbins's avatar

Your writing is just so eloquent.

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Ella's avatar

This was amazing.

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Maya's avatar

oh wow I teared up at this...so beautifully said, Hayes!! <3<3

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Lori Robinson's avatar

A beautifully written and sensitive piece. Your ability to connect with the writer with such care and empathy is touching.

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