“ Every choice we make moves us in one direction, and with that step comes some loss of something we thought we wanted before. We can feel grief even when we change our mind!”
I didn’t know how much I needed to hear this. I’m happily married but still feel that grief about decisions we have made that look different than the possibilities I saw for my life. I’m now realizing I can give those feelings space, and it doesn’t mean I have regrets or am unhappy. I’m so grateful for this new perspective.
Maria, I'm so happy this part brought you some comfort. Writing it brought me comfort too. I think about this all the time...how we're made to feel that unless things are PERFECT and GREAT and NO REGRETS all the friggen time...then something must be "wrong." No my dear! Nothing is wrong (or everything is wrong haha). Grief is just part of the joy. Thanks for being here, new friend.
Goosebumps! So many golden nuggets in this piece. I particularly love how you called out, "That’s the world getting in your head, along with the red-flag rhetoric that’s all over social media" - social media has felt more intimately manipulative lately, more than the expected "influencer" style content of what clothes to wear or skincare to try or fitness routines to prioritize... and I've felt it - but haven't quite figured out the why or what. This piece answered it so clearly for me. There is SO much about social media right now that is calling attention to and establishing deeper "meaning" about specific actions, situations, conversations, etc., of romantic (or otherwise) relationships. The type of overbearing content that makes you start to question things you never would have if the idea weren't put in your head. Red-flag rhetoric...I hope you'll continue the debunking journey!
JJ, thank you for this generous comment. "Social media has felt more intimately manipulative lately..." this is a gorgeous and true and deeply unsettling observation. I agree with you. It only recently occurred to me that I'm trying to "debunk" that perspective with my content...thank you for the validation and support. I'm so glad you're here.
One word. WOW. She does it again!
“ Every choice we make moves us in one direction, and with that step comes some loss of something we thought we wanted before. We can feel grief even when we change our mind!”
I didn’t know how much I needed to hear this. I’m happily married but still feel that grief about decisions we have made that look different than the possibilities I saw for my life. I’m now realizing I can give those feelings space, and it doesn’t mean I have regrets or am unhappy. I’m so grateful for this new perspective.
Maria, I'm so happy this part brought you some comfort. Writing it brought me comfort too. I think about this all the time...how we're made to feel that unless things are PERFECT and GREAT and NO REGRETS all the friggen time...then something must be "wrong." No my dear! Nothing is wrong (or everything is wrong haha). Grief is just part of the joy. Thanks for being here, new friend.
You are brilliant! Amazing commentary and thoughts, applicable to anyone who has ever been in a serious relationship
Thank you, friend! <3
Goosebumps! So many golden nuggets in this piece. I particularly love how you called out, "That’s the world getting in your head, along with the red-flag rhetoric that’s all over social media" - social media has felt more intimately manipulative lately, more than the expected "influencer" style content of what clothes to wear or skincare to try or fitness routines to prioritize... and I've felt it - but haven't quite figured out the why or what. This piece answered it so clearly for me. There is SO much about social media right now that is calling attention to and establishing deeper "meaning" about specific actions, situations, conversations, etc., of romantic (or otherwise) relationships. The type of overbearing content that makes you start to question things you never would have if the idea weren't put in your head. Red-flag rhetoric...I hope you'll continue the debunking journey!
JJ, thank you for this generous comment. "Social media has felt more intimately manipulative lately..." this is a gorgeous and true and deeply unsettling observation. I agree with you. It only recently occurred to me that I'm trying to "debunk" that perspective with my content...thank you for the validation and support. I'm so glad you're here.