What wonderful words. As a parent, we sometimes forget that our children are adults and it is a good reminder that they are! I hope I was always that mom that remembered not to cross boundaries incessantly! 🙃
"You are grown but you are also small, in the same way that our parents are ours but they are also their own." - this was like a shot to the heart!! as always, your language is so full of warmth and consideration and understanding, a real pleasure to read, Hayes <3
I've been in a similar position! Grieving your parents' relationship as an adult feels very odd - especially when you feel stuck in the middle and guilty about communicating to the 'other' parent. I've struggled a lot with the 'if he wanted to, he would' attitude to my dad not reaching out, but need to remind myself that he's just as unsure about having to navigate our new relationship as I am. Situations like this help us realise our parents aren't perfect, don't always deal with situations in the right way, and are human too.
I have a friend going through her parents divorcing as an adult. Helping your parents establish boundaries and offer support for them to try new things, is a difficult task but I completely agree
What wonderful words. As a parent, we sometimes forget that our children are adults and it is a good reminder that they are! I hope I was always that mom that remembered not to cross boundaries incessantly! 🙃
I love you mama. Couldn't have asked for a better one.
"You are grown but you are also small, in the same way that our parents are ours but they are also their own." - this was like a shot to the heart!! as always, your language is so full of warmth and consideration and understanding, a real pleasure to read, Hayes <3
I've been in a similar position! Grieving your parents' relationship as an adult feels very odd - especially when you feel stuck in the middle and guilty about communicating to the 'other' parent. I've struggled a lot with the 'if he wanted to, he would' attitude to my dad not reaching out, but need to remind myself that he's just as unsure about having to navigate our new relationship as I am. Situations like this help us realise our parents aren't perfect, don't always deal with situations in the right way, and are human too.
I have a friend going through her parents divorcing as an adult. Helping your parents establish boundaries and offer support for them to try new things, is a difficult task but I completely agree
A++ advice, Hayes. I can't express enough how much I appreciate your ability to articulate things with such an insightful & empathetic warmth.
This is devastating. I also worry about Dad’s health. A sudden shift in behavior like this can indicate medical problems, especially later in life.
Oh my heart!